Thankful Thursday: The Ones Who Get You

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 People inspire you or they drain you- pick them wisely. -Hans F. Hansen

 You know who I’m talking about.

They’re the ones you turn to when no one gets what you’re trying to say.

The ones who have your back when someone screws you over or if you hit hard times.

The ones that make you laugh until your sides hurt and you can’t breathe, but you have to keep laughing because they’re so damn funny.

The ones who can read your face and then read your mind like a scary psychic, only it’s not scary. It’s awesome.

The ones who challenge you to push yourself a bit further than yesterday without ever making you feel like a loser because you haven’t quite reached your goals yet.

The ones who let you go on and on about the same crisis that’s kept you in the dumps for awhile and know when to just listen and and when it’s time to intervene.

The ones who make it okay to let out your full crazy- you know, the little peccadilloes you keep hidden from the general public- without judgement. In fact, they let their freak flags fly too.

The ones you don’t have ever have to explain yourself to because they know you well enough to understand who you are deep down and ultimately what you need.

The ones you trust and love, and more importantly, who trust and love you. As is.

Yeah, those guys.

To all my ones who’ve been there for me through it all; traveling around the world, frat parties, dancing in store windows, career changes,  breaking lifting records, tearful confessions, breakups to makeups to breakups again, running away, family fights, and all of the firsts:

You’re the ones that make all of this worth it.

Thankful Thursday: The Ones Who Get You

Who are your positive influences?

What are you thankful for this week?

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Thankful Thursday: Mama Who Bore Me

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We fight.

We laugh.

We gossip.

We debate.

We love and we live.

My mom, sister, and niece enjoying their first taste of gelato in Rome for her 65th birthday.

She taught me the value of sacrifice by example. She paved the way for me so long ago by breaking through language, financial and cultural barriers to get my family the very best that she could.

She showed me what it was to be a fighter, a domestic goddess, considerate and self-loving, questioning of the world around me, an exceptional woman through and through.

Celebrating my mom’s 69th birthday one year ago.

My mother turns 70 years young this weekend. How can I properly capture her? Words are so small in comparison to the footprint she’s already left on the world. Pictures are just  moments frozen in time, doing little to illustrate just how magnificent she is.

In the entire history of the world, she is singular. Unique. A one of a kind treasure.

And no matter how far apart we find ourselves mid argument or how misunderstood I feel (because we’ll always complain that parents just don’t understand), I can never stop loving this contrary, stubborn, incredibly giving, beautiful person.

What am I thankful for? 70 years of my mom. And all the years to come.

Thankful Thursday: Mama Who Bore Me

What are you thankful for this week?

As always, keep paying it forward. Stay healthy! 🙂

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Thankful Thursdays: No (Wo)Man is an Island

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Courage does not always roar. Sometimes courage is the quiet voice at the end of the day saying,

“I will try again tomorrow.”

– Mary Anne Radmacher

 

 

It’s impossible to go through life without taking others into consideration. In the wise words of John Donne, ‘no man is an island.’ As much as I’d like to consider myself a trailblazer, walking down the road of life alone, without stopping to muse on what others might think about me, I’m human. I can’t help but wonder how the world perceives me.

Don’t compromise who you are and what you’re doing for the sake of others. That’s usually the advice I get when I start to get bogged down by negative thoughts. My confidence takes a nosedive and I find myself frozen, too scared to move forward or back because I worry about what my peers might think.

I’m a failure. My writing is terrible. I’m lazy. If I gain weight, I’ll be alone. Wasted potential. No substance….Loser.

Terrible line of thinking, isn’t it?

The reality is that when we preoccupy ourselves with what we think others are thinking about us, what we’re really doing is cutting ourselves down all on our own. We allow our fears to bully us into dark corners where we’re left powerless and immobilized. And the worst part is that it’s all our own doing.

I realize how depressing this sounds. Trust me, my goal is not to come here each week and be a downer for all of you. But it was important for me to reflect on some of the challenges I still experience  on my journey to wellness. It was a particularly dark week for me as I struggled past some of my deepest insecurities. 2014 hasn’t been very kind to me so far, and I’m often choosing between two difficult and unsavory options on an ongoing basis. And I imagine that many of you are in similar struggles.

We can be independent and driven as we strive to reach our goals, but it’s naive to think that we can block out the world in the process. Everything we do ripples out and affects those around us whether we realize it or not. Even when I’m feeling at my lowest and I’ve hidden myself away, I’m putting out an energy and that impacts my environment, for better or worse.

I’m grateful that when I have those days when all I’m doing is questioning all that I am, I can manage to look out and see love around me. Those moments offer an extraordinary opportunity to recalibrate. It’s a sucky process, no doubt about it. But a necessary one.

Take it one step at a time and forgive yourself for the little stumbles along the way. Don’t be scared to ask the hard questions and don’t be discouraged if you don’t have the answers right away. I know I forget that sometimes and that’s alright. We’ve all been there.

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What do you do to get yourself out of a funk?

What are you grateful for this week? Please feel free to share!

As always, keep paying it forward. Stay healthy! 🙂

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